Wednesday, October 21, 2009

Midnight Dress Doubts, Pt. II of My Thrilling "Second Thoughts" Series.


CRAP. NARDS. BALLZ. EFFFFFFFFF.

Excuse my 'lame' case of Turret's, but dude. Having 2nd thoughts BLOWS. As I was desperately trying to fall asleep the other night, I couldn't stop thinking about my wedding dress situation. I had a minor freak-out that maybe the Watters wedding dress I bought a couple months ago isn't all that practical or entirely 'me'. Allow me to explain:

As I write this blog, I find that my 'bride style' is developing and evolving along the way. I should have KNOWN that maybe my 'bride style' now won't be the same as next July when I actually have to wear the damn thing. Don't get me wrong, I LOVE MY DRESS. It's sexy-fly and hugs the curvies nicely, so it's not too too traditional in that sense. BUT it's still a long, mermaid, ivory wedding dress that I paid nearly a $1000 for - and yeah sure, that's a good deal on a designer wedding dress... but let's get serious here. A thousand dollars is a sh-t ton of money for a dress I will wear only ONCE. I secretly wanted a short, fun, unique wedding dress all along - one that I found from a small-scale, independent designer. But then I thought I wouldn't feel 'bride-like' enough. Whatever that means (NOTE: I have since not given two sh-ts about feeling 'bride-like' on my wedding day). And PLUS, others kept telling me that I would regret not wearing a long dress...little did they know...

Well. Hmm.

I'm not saying I'm changing my mind about the Watters dress...YET. I'm having a second reception dress made by a very talented designer on Etsy. YAY FOR INDEPENDENT DESIGNERS! Here are some pics of what my custom dress is going to kind of look like (Think sweetheart neckline and a tulle overlay on the torso and bust):

Photos by Renee Brazel

This dress is SO fun and unique I can't even handle it. And I don't care what all the haters say, I LOVE tulle - maybe not in long ballgown form, but in short form, it's hella fly. Right now I'm paying under $300 for this custom dress. I ain't gonna lie. I'm having buyer's guilt for buying two dresses...granted they aren't the "thousands of dollars" kinds of dresses, but whatever, we need all the extra cash for this wedding we can get. And Plus, why would I want to hog TWO FULL DRESSES when I could sell an AMAZING designer dress to a fellow bride on a budget for half the price!? I'm ALL ABOUT spreading the love, so why the HELL do I have two wedding dresses? It just seems more practical for me to sell the Watters dress and just wear the short one the whole night. Again, love the long dress, but my other dilemma is this: I CAN'T DANCE IN THE WATTERS DRESS. My knees are like permanently buckled together in it. And I'm a TOTAL idiot for not really considering this fact in the first place - given the fact that I NEED to dance hardcore at my wedding.

So the question is:
  1. Do I sell the Watters gown and wear the short one all night?
  2. Or should I sell the Watters gown and put more money into the short dress (like $100 more for better tulle or cup inserts or boning or whatever).
  3. OR should I just shut the eff up and keep both dresses?
Yeah, yeah I know. I'm the only one who can make this decision. And it's probably going to involve me trying on the dress over and over and staring at it long and hard. But damn. This is hard, yo.

...My other concern is this: Will I even be able to sell the Watters dress? I wonder how easy it is... Do you know anyone who would even want a Watters Size 10 mermaid, sweetheart neckline, strapless, ivory gown? If I actually do decide to sell this thing, I of course will post some pics of the actual dress. But until then, if you want to see the dress pics in the meantime, email me at bowiebride@gmail.com
Ugh. Need. Advice. Now. PLEASE share your second thoughts dress stories and how you remedied the situation. AND don't forget to spread the word about possibly selling my Watters dress. If I know I have someone at least interested, I'll be more gung ho on the idea of selling it...

Thank you!!
Posted by Britt Hollenbrau at 6:56 AM
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14 comments:

  1. i think you should go with option c, keep both! i love both dresses and you really aren't spending that much for both of them. my sister-in-law bought a dress, changed her mind and bought a new one. she sold her first dress through a boutique here in phx, no problem. the watters dress you have is gorgeous, but still simple enough that plenty of people would be interested in it. so....KEEP BOTH! i'm a traditioinalist though and agree that you might want to be walking down the aisle in a long dress. :)
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  2. I would suggest keeping the Watters dress until you receive the (aaaamazing looking) etsy dress in person. With custom work, you never know, so wait and see how you feel in it when it arrives. If it feels great and you can dance (top priority, obvs) you can decide to sell the Watters then.

    Will you get the full $1000 back for the Watters dress? Probably not (the Watters samples I've seen run in the $700 range.) Will it sell quickly? Probably not. Many dresses sit for a while, but with smart marketing and targeted listings (Encore Bridal, Preownedweddingdresses, Craigslist, OnceWed, etc), you have good shot of getting it eventually sold, especially because it's unaltered.

    And I truly feel "the one" dress is BS. But I do believe in feeling comfortable and good about your dress. Try it on again and see.
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  3. hey there chica,

    first off, let me say i love your blog. i'm a fellow wedding chicks bridal blogger and found this blog through there -- and am loving it.

    like you, i am having second thoughts. i have a dress -- it's unique and fun but probably not so practical for partying. and i go back and forth with the whole idea of if i want to feel 'bride-like' on that day. girl, i think we could wear the most basic thing and feel bridelike when you have a great man and family and friends there to celebrate that love.

    here's the deal, i have put my dress on ebay, craigslist, oncewed and others.....had a few bites but nothing substantial. in the mean time i am holding out for a dress that i feel i can boogie down in.

    i agree with the comment above, definitely wait until you get the shortie on-hand. make sure you feel comfy and convinced that you could be a bride in that dress....and then let the other one go.

    i def love your short dress pick and have been drooling over it since you posted the pic a week or so ago. as for the watters, i love it, too. it's a more comfy version of my own dress. so if you do sell it, keep me in mind!

    good luck!!
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  4. I agree with LA Love, wait until you get the custom dress. See if it fits, if it does stress out then!!! HAHA, just kidding! Seriously though wait until you get the other dress, then you can make a better decision. There isn't one perfect dress there is one dress that feels right. You will probably be able to sell the watters dress second hand dress markets are big business.
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  5. Didn't read the other responses, but I'd say keep both. If you are really hating the idea of the long dress, take it to a tailor and have them hack off the bottom part, could be cute and sexy, an asymmetrical sort of bottom, from what the pics look like.

    Shit, girl, you'll look smokin' in anything. If it's a matter of money, sell the more formal one and work with the other.

    God, getting married is complicated.

    Love your blog!

    Kisses.
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  6. I'm going to be of no help at all b/c I LOVE both dresses and think you should wear both. And then sell them both! I know, wishful thinking. Good luck.
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  7. My only advice is this: KEEP. BOTH. DRESSES. End of story. Your Watters dress is fab and the custom Etsy dress will likely be phenomenal as well. This way you get the best of both worlds, and will never wonder "what if?" in the future. You can rock hard in your short, sassy dress, and be elegant and oh-so stunning (because you're absolutely adorable p.s.!) in the Watters gown. I'm dying to hear how this all turns out. Best of luck.
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  8. hey lady. I don't have a blog but I like yours and if I had a blog I would totally want to be your blog friend. I am totally on the same page with you about much of this wedding planning, and to be honest, the more I look at the more traditional wedding blogorama the more I kind of get grossed out. SOOOO - having said that, I say, go with your gut. My gut is particularly reactionary and almost always 100% spot on. It doesn't let me sleep at night if I've made a bad purchase or didn't make a good one. I say sell the dress. Check this out on projectwedding.com/classifieds you can list your dress. Im SURE there are a million other sites like this too, but thats a good start. Go for it. Do what feels right to YOU not to what the ga ga crazy blogs tell you sould feel is right.
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  9. hmmm this is a tough one. i too had dress regret and wasn't sure that the one i bought was "the one". i was really concerned that i wouldn't be able to dance it in and that was a major factor for me. i stressed about it for months and considered buying another one. in the end it all worked out well...i kept my original dress & was able to dance my a$$ off all nite long :)

    i think it's probably best for you to hold onto your Watters gown until you get the Etsy one. you never know what it will be like in person. you can't really go wrong with either. they're both super fab!

    good luck & let us know how it turns out :)
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  10. This is YOUR big day. I say if you love both, then keep both. Who cares about money, it's your friggen wedding day!!
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  11. Hey girl! First...I love reading your blog. I say...do what makes you feel comfortable. I've never known you to be the "traditional" girl...so if you don't care about the long dress...that's what matters...and the short one...SO CUTE!!!
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  12. I love the idea of two dresses! Maybe rock both, but if you're loving one more than the other, then go with that one!
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  13. I adore the 2nd dress. And I think it is appropriate for the whole shebang not just as a reception dress. It definitely still has the bride feeling well being unique at the same time. BTW - if you're looking for a buyer for your Watters dress I have been having severe dress regret as well! I would take LA Love's advice though and wait until you actually have the Etsy dress before you decide.
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  14. Love love love the tulle dress, similar to mine! So fun and will be easy to dance in!
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