If it ain't done, it ain't done. So don't try to judge it if it ain't done. Allow me to explain. I walked into Deb's studio and right away, I saw my dress hanging on the rack. It was beautiful. And unique. And I couldn't wait to try it on... But when I did, it was too tight around my hips, so much so that it was cutting into my back fat. AWESOME. Not really. But Deb assured me that the hip-cutter part was an easy fix. Phew. Then I gazed at the dress more in the mirror. Something about it felt less than spectacular... less dramatic... less "bride-like." Which I knew was going to be the case; such is the case with most short wedding gowns. But there was something about the gown that had me feeling slightly underwhelmed. The gown is stunning and impeccably made, don't get me wrong. There was just something missing... But then I realized that Deb still had to add more volume to the skirt, and she still needed to add the sash - two elements that would surely make the gown more ka-POW. So I'm keeping the faith that everything will turn out perfect. Now the search is on for the perfect shoes... judging by the color of the dress, I may have to go with light pink, a silvery tone, yellow, or perhaps green... we shall see...
I know I'm not the only bride who didn't fall madly in love with her gown on the first fitting... so tell me your story... make me feel like I'm not the only one... please!
The first time I tried on my actual dress (not the sample) I couldn't sit. Like, literally, I was too fat and the dress was too tight. Then at my first fitting, I still couldn't sit. Then at my 2nd (and final) fitting I could sort of sit. And I was like well shit...
ReplyDeleteBut it all worked out in the end and I was able to sit come W day. And it will all work out for you and you will look rock star hot. Because, let's face it, you totally ARE a rock star.
I have green shoes in an 8.5 if you're interested. Let me know if you'd like to see!
When I first tried on my dress it was already made (Dolly Couture) but had been too short (measurements got read wrong) so they had me come in to see it. I was excited with how it looked (other than length) but never had the "bridal moment". Then again, if I had seen it without the final touches I would have been like "um... this is just a white dress". So I think you'll be thrilled once everything's added on and it fits totally right. With the short dresses there's always a bit of a risk but I think the poofiness makes it extra special. FWIW, I was passing by a bridal store in Pasadena this weekend and 4 out of 5 of their gowns in display were short!
ReplyDeleteEveryone told me that I'd be "smiling from ear to ear and SOEXCITEDOMGYOUREGETTINGMARRIEDDONTYOUWANTTOCRY??"
ReplyDeleteInstead I felt really hot and felt like barfing and I could see the outline of my belly button and the sraps were too big and the bow was cheap looking...
BUT I'm going in for alterations next week and with the help of a wonderful seamstress and some spanx, the dress will be the right length, the straps will actually FIT and my belly button will be a thing of the past.
I just married back on 5/22. I never had the "bridalOMFGIMINADRESSWHEEFUNYAYJOY" moment. In fact, when I saw a few brides tear up,including one that looked like a giant doily I kind of wanted to smack her.
ReplyDeleteAnyways, I felt okay after my first fitting then proceeded to freak the f*ck out for the next few weeks that I had picked the wrong dress/I looked like a ivory cow. But on wedding day after I had my hair and makeup done and veil on etc etc everything felt perfect and fell into place. I still didn't tear up or anything -I'm just not that type of person- but I felt great!
I think you'll totally be okay and you'll rock your dress and you'll be happy/excited etc!
So true...as the months/weeks led up to our wedding day, each time I would put my gown on or look at a picture of it, I felt less impressed by it. Something didn't seem spectacular as you said. It wasn't wowing me the way it did when I made the purchase. :( I chalked it up to the fact that there are so many freaking dresses out in the world constantly being thrown in your face in the world of weddings that there is always something better around the corner than what you currently have. So I tried to put blinders on and just be happy with my gown. I even talked to another bride who felt the exact same way about her gown.
ReplyDeleteAnd now here I am on the other side of married life...and I have seen my pro pics and my video and I have to say, I am in love with my gown all over again. The way it came together on the day of made me realize that it was in fact the exact gown I wanted and I loved it! I am sure you will feel the same way. Don't worry about dress doubt or let down, it goes away. :)
Totally was not in love with mine. It will get better, I promise.
ReplyDeleteI went and tried on "typical" gowns, because I started worrying that my dress lacked oomph (which is actually why I chose it in the first place -- white and poufiness don't do anything for me, but this wedding stuff messes with your head).
ReplyDeleteAnd then, I tried on dress after dress after dress. My friends oohed and ahhed at appropriate times, but I could tell they were waiting for feedback, for me to have that "ahhhomygawd I'm getting maaaaarrrriiieed!!" teary experience, and it wasn't happening.
I think I may just not be that kind of person. And I also wonder how many times a girl cries/freaks out, because she's been "taught" that's what happens.
i had my first fitting on friday, and i wasn't happy with my dress. why oh why did i choose a white, satin dress? i was hit by a car back in january, which has prevented me from being very active, and my recovery has been slower than expected. so that big plan to get back in shape? not working so well.
ReplyDeletei'm trying to maintain a healthy diet, and working out when i'm able to. and experimenting with foundation garments, ha! also trying to remember that hair/makeup/accessories will make a huge difference!
I think I can relate on the wedding dress- although I'm shockingly just wearing my short white BCBG dress (which I feel like is your reception dress or was or something?!) straight off the hanger- I've never had that tearsinmyeyes, YESYESYESI'MABRIDE moment. I was starting to feel underwhelmed and so I started regularly cheating on my dress- you know trying on other dresses, looking for other dresses online, etc... Then one day I put my dress back on and I really really liked it. I might even love it a little bit- but still no crazy YESYESYESI'MABRIDE moment. And that's okay. I'm over having that moment.
ReplyDeleteI CAN definitely relate on a fitting/garment construction level though- and you're dress will get better. It will fit perfectly. And maybe you'll have that moment. Or maybe you won't. Either way I'm sure you'll be a beautiful bride and have an amazing wedding!
And I can't freakin' wait to see this amazing dress! :)
When I saw pictures on J Crew of what would become my dress, I thought it was EXACTLY what I had been looking for. Bought it. A few weeks later, I was having second thoughts about it, thinking maybe it looked too nightgownish, etc. And I kept seeing these amazing colorful dresses come up on GiltGroup and wonder, "why the hell didn't I have the guts to buy that! They are probably better quality AND they're half the price" And then I'd walk into a BCBG store and see their less expensive options also and think how more perfect those dresses would have been. Ah, well.
ReplyDeleteI'm wearing my dress this weekend, it's terrific, and I'm getting married. And I will more fabulous dresses another day (I hope!).
I have my first one next week, I'll let you know after!
ReplyDeleteIt's because you don't have the hot shoes yet!
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