Many thanks to everyone who joined Team Titfield by commenting on the Why did you want to get married? post. We got some really great research from the comments you all left and will definitely be using it for the project we are working on. Today, Titfield is back with a new research question for you all...
When the cat's away... what does your single self secretly play?
I’ve been single going on three years and have lived alone for about that long too. And in that time I’ve gotten quite comfortable with myself and only have my own judgment to fear when dinner consists of melted cheese sticks. I take for granted I’m the only one who knows how many times I clog the toilet or how often I watch Ghost Whisperer reruns. And if I put Heart's Alone on repeat while eating my melted cheese, well I can do that too, in peace. But it wasn’t until Bowie Bride mentioned her own private behavior that she let out when her husband wasn’t around that I realized I was living in my own luxury palace of personal space. But this got me thinking, “What am I going to have to give up, or hide, when I do find someone I want to literally share my life with.” Not my stories about ghost-communicating Jennifer Love Hewitt I’ll you that much.
Now I know that the ideal partnership is someone you share everything with. And Bowie Bride assured me that there wasn’t anything she does by herself she wouldn’t do in front of her husband. But I think there are just certain behaviors you would prefer not do showcase in front of another human being. Or maybe behaviors THEY prefer not to be around. Do any of you have something you just can’t wait to do until your partner leaves? And if you are truly “for better or for worse” with each other now, there had to be something that you kept under wraps during the beginning stages of the courtship when you had your best foot forward. Can anyone honestly tell me they weren't afraid to fart on their first few dates?
I will answer first! Even though Titfield is right that yes, I would probably do anything in front of my husband and not give a shit... BUT I do get much pleasure in doing certain silly behaviors alone... like blast my favorite ridiculous love songs and angry anthems whilst singing to them at the top of my lungs, nursing a bottle of wine, and just letting the emotions rip. Mike doesn't need to see me do that... LOL
ReplyDeleteOther things? Watching tear jerking episodes of Grey's Anatomy with a box of tissues and a carton of peanut butter chocolate ice cream. Watching any tear jerking movie or TV show for that matter...
I'm sure there's more... Let me think
I do everything in front of Isaiah and don't care the least and vice versa...we kind of started out this way too because we were really good friends, first...I suppose when he's gone, sometimes I bury myself in work and productivity so I don't miss as much time together when he's home and the like...he also isn't as fond of endless reruns of Seinfeld...so I turn those on pretty much right away, ha.
ReplyDeleteI've been known to eat a whole wheel of brie cheese in my Hubby's absence. I mainly eat every second of the day he's gone, and I watch re-runs of "America's Next Top Model." He hates ANTM, but he knows that's all I watch when he's gone. Some things are best kept private, just out of sheer dignity.
ReplyDeletenot that i'm married, but i've lived with my S.O. for more than three years and the second he would leave i'd indulge in beauty videos on youtube. he always gives me such a hard time for watching them... and i blast my girly music that no other person should ever be subjected to. i also like to walk around in the sloppiest jams i can find, because truthfully those are the most comfy!
ReplyDeleteI am not married or living with a man...but things that I don't want anyone to see include: 1. Me wearing the the most ugly pink sweatpants with multicolored stars on them
ReplyDelete2. Calling my dog all of her sweet nicknames, like moomkins and miss soonita
3. "Nair'ing" my private area : ) That's just nasty
4. Chowing down on biscuit dough
I generally save the repetitions of NSYNC - No Strings Attached and Say Yes to the Dress for when my live-in significant other is out, but the thing I honestly look forward to is leaving the bathroom door open when I use it. That is for serious the best alone activity ever.
ReplyDeleteI finally carry in the TJ Maxx and Marshalls bags I've been hiding in the trunk of my car.
ReplyDeleteBTW, am I just wishful thinking, or can I see the outline of JLH's poon through her leotard?
I'm in a long distance relationship and I let my armpit hair grow in between the times we see each other. This last time it was 2 months.
ReplyDeleteWhen my partner is gone for work for a few days, I am quite lackadaisical about putting away my clothing. I let it lounge around on the floor until just before he gets back.
ReplyDeleteWell, since I'm not in a relationship currently, I'll share the things I most certainly do NOT look forward to in sharing my life with someone.
ReplyDeleteShaving - I get that eventually in most LTRs/marriages, smooth legs become a thing of the past. But I don't want to subject my SO to my prickly stems! But man. Shaving all of my parts every single day? Talk about exhausting.
Eating - Whatever I want, whenever I want, however I want and wherever I want. Can of green beans and Lawry's seasoning for dinner? Yes please! Coordinating what I want and what he wants every night of the week seems a bit like a chore. (So does not being able to eat til I'm bursting!)
Relaxing - I spend most evenings sans pants on the left side of my queen size bed, sitting indian-style and watching my recorded shows. What happens when I have to stay presentable after work and sit on the couch watching mutually agreed upon shows?? Bleh.
In conclusion, as much as I want to share my life with someone else, I've learned to enjoy the freedom of being single and living alone.
@Anonymous - oops. i am guilty of every single one of those things whilst my SO is around
ReplyDeleteI'm ridiculously anal retentive, so using the bathroom with the door open (and the front door deadbolted, thankyouverymuch) makes me a happy camper. I can't even think of doing that when he's home.
ReplyDeleteGetting to watch the worst television shows ever (Lockup:Raw, bitches!) while wearing over-sized sweatshirts and granny panties without fear of eye-rolling judgment feels pretty great too.
When my significant other leaves I immediately grab a snack, tea and put on something girly that he'd never agree to watching. When he's away for a couple days I do things like *gasp* order Chinese. (He an unadventurous eater.)
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