Ah, yes. The time has come to ask our friends to be in our wedding. Over the last couple of months I have been pondering a way to ask them. The trend all over bride blogland is to ask them in a more formal and official way - like with a cool card, or an arts 'n craftsy project or some shiz. But I don't know, man. Something tells me that my friends wouldn't really give two hoots about a personalized card or art project asking them to be in our wedding party. These are the people who've held my hair while throwing up in an alley - they would NEVER ask for a 'formal or official' anything from us. Don't get me wrong, they are the people nearest and dearest to Mike and I (truly they are), so making them something would certainly be worth my time. But dude, really? Do we really gotta worry about one more arts and crafts project? We already have over 15 head-exploding DIY projects lined up. I can't handle another.
So, we've since pondered this option and decided not to rock the whole personalized wedding party proposal idea. Instead, we did it the old fashioned way: straight up asked 'em. It went a little something like this:
Ryan: Hey, Britt, when's the wedding again?
Britt: July 31, 2010. And oh yeah, you're IN the wedding. Cool?
Ryan: DONE.
Britt: Awesome.
Here's how we asked our other college friends:
Britt: (finishes hearty beer swig) Oh yeah I forgot! Hey, dudes - will you guys be in our wedding party? You can wear whatever the EFF you want.
Laura/Dave/Steve/Kate: Sweet, yeah, sounds good.
Britt: Sweet. (looks at watch) Oh, sh-t we better get to the bar before last call!
It was already implied that my sisters and Mike's sister would be in it. And already implied that both our best friends would be in it. So that about covers it - except for two more - both of which we will have similar discussions with in the very near future. Steve and Chris, I'm talkin' to you. So if you're reading this, get ready for a very informal phone call. Or simply respond 'yes' or 'no' in the comments below. I'm not even kidding. (LOL).
So yeah. That's that. Easy Cheesy. I guess my advice is this: You and you alone are the ONLY entity that cares about how your friends are asked to be in your wedding party. TRUST ME. No one is going to say this: "Hmmm, I don't know, Britt. I was reeeeaaaally hoping for a string of paper dolls in matching dresses." Not gonna happen.
So if you're feeling overwhelmed with the DIY projects, I'm here to tell you that this is one project you can LET GO. If you're stressed about it in the very least, just say, 'eff it.' Your friends will be in your wedding party because they love you. Not because you spend 4 hours writing a crappy poem that ultimately asks them a 'no sh-t' question that will receive a 'yes of course' answer. Chances are, if you're close enough to ask 'em to stand by you on your wedding day, then I think they will say, "YES." Without hesitation. ESPECIALLY if you're like us and not making them wear stiff tuxes and taffeta monstrosities.
And yeah yeah don't get me wrong, I'm totally down for being creative in all aspects - which OF COURSE includes asking your buds to be in your wedding party. So don't think this is a diss post. I'm just sayin' that this is one DIY project that's OK to let go of in my book.
Did you ask your groomsmen/bridesmaids in a unique way?
